One of the more fun parts of my “job” is that I have an excuse to reach out to people I’ve been secretly stalking for decades. Take that time, for instance, when I met Susan Spungen for breakfast at a Union Square coffee shop. Spungen spearheaded the food section at Martha Stewart Living twenty years ago. We have her to thank for leading the team that put together the Hors D’oeuvres Handbook, which is not only my finger food bible, but the bible of caterers across America. When I heard she was coming out with a book on Entertaining — What’s a Hostess to Do? — I set up a date, and over poached eggs and shaved asparagus, downloaded her hard-won wisdom.
21 Rules for Entertaining
Culled from What’s a Hostess to Do, by Susan Spungen (and so many thousands more where these came from)
1. Less can be more. Focus on a few beautiful well-conceived, well-prepared dishes.
2. Unless it’s the holiday, in which case the key word is “bounty.” (See above.)
3. The language you use for your invitation should focus on who you do want at the party (“Join us for a grown-up dinner”) not who you don’t want (“No kids please.”)
4. For the kids — When in doubt: “Bambini Pasta,” i.e. noodles, spaghetti, penne, whatever you got — with butter and Parm.
5. Some handy math: On average, assume your guests will have 2 drinks per hour (10 guests x 2 drinks x 2 hours = 40 drinks). There are approximately 5 wine glasses per bottle. A 1-liter bottle of liquor contains enough for 32 mixed drinks. One liter of mixer will make 8 drinks.
6. The Paloma is The New Margarita. [OK, disclaimer: Susan didn’t exactly say that, but I did, and will continue to all year. To make: 1/2 cup grapefruit soda (such as Mexican Jarritos or Jamaican Ting), the juice of half a lime, and 2 ounces tequila. Serve over ice with lime wedge.]
7. The Manhattan is the New Manhattan.
8. Centerpieces: DO use short candles, DON’T use tall or overly fragrant flowers or plants; DO decorate with short flowers or potted plants, DON’T crowd the table.
9. Scented candles? Yes, for sure, in the bathroom. On the table? Never.
10. All will be fine if Nutella is on the menu. Nutella Dessert Sandwiches: Toast thinly sliced brioche bread, spread with Nutella and dust with powdered sugar. Serve warm.
11. Three Four-Syllable Laws of Sanity Preservation when entertaining: Make it Ahead, Cook What You Know, Think Mise en Place.
12. A multitude of sins can be easily overlooked when people are basking in a warm glow: Lighting should be soft.
13. Bathroom checklist: Close the shower curtain, empty the trash. If there is no lock, make an “occupied” sign to hang on the knob. Better yet, have the kids do it.
14. Invest in a collapsible metal coatrack and never dive through a mountain of identical black wool overcoats heaped on a bed ever again.
15. Winning Cheese and Fruit Pairs for a Starter Spread: Apples + Cheddar, Quince Paste + Manchego, Figs + Gorgonzola
16. Good salumi needs little accompaniment. But no one will object if it’s next to some good bread, olives, and crisp fennel slices.
17. To make after-party cleanup less soul-crushing, always start the evening with an empty dishwasher, dish rack, trash can, and sink.
19. Yes, you can bring wine = The answer when your friends ask What Can I Bring?
20. A good party is much more than the sum of its parts. The gathering takes on a life of its own, and it almost always works out, even when it doesn’t.
21. The no-fail menu for entertaining kids and adults: Ribs, Slaw (lose the brussels in the summer), and make-ahead Ice Cream Sandwiches.
To make: For each sandwich, place a scoop of ice cream on a chocolate chip cookie (try Tate’s brand or another thin crisp cookie). Top with another cookie and press down gently. Place on a rimmed baking sheet and set in the freezer. Wrap individually after they’ve hardened, and freeze until ready to serve.
Art & Photo credits: Evan Sung (holiday spread) Sun Young Park (cocktail tray illustration), Susan Spungen (desserts)
Loved this post! I’m moving into my first home soon and I’m SO excited to entertain! Perfect housewarming party tips.
Must. Make. Nutella. Sandwiches. Now.
Great advice for easy entertaining. And so practical. The empty dishwasher/trash can so easily be overlooked or forgotten, but what a difference it can make!
Love the simplicity of her rules; such common sense stated so simply.
This looks like a fabulous book. I find myself falling into ruts when we entertain, so this could bring some fresh air to our shindigs.
Great post, thanks!
Great list, Jenny and Susan!
Thanks!
Adding this book to my “must read” list. Thanks!
Well this sounds like a must have!
I could do with a Nutella sandwich right about now…..these are all good rules, I try to remember most of them so I’m not running around like a maniac when I have guests! (even if it’s just a girlfriend over for a cheeseburger)
Noodles w/ Parm & butter for the kids v. fighting over why they won’t eat the meal I prepared. Love it!
I get very ANXIOUS when we have a SMALL gathering! I believe having this book would help because my mind goes into overdrive & not able to narrow down my plans. I had to be honest , thankfully my husband is a better party planner & good host, he keeps me calm to enjoy our friends!
Thanks for the opportunity to win !!
What a great post! Makes me want to have a dinner party immediately. I’m going to be planning over a Paloma tonight!
great post. love the bathroom tips and the empty dishwasher, trash, etc. why didn’t i think of that
Love these tips! Especially some of the rules of thumb about what guests consume. That’s what I always struggle with. Would love to win a copy of the book!
What a fun post & book! I love having get togethers and I can’t wait to move and start hosting them again.
Love her less is more attitude. I tend to overdue and having someone like Susan confirm this makes it a lot easier to let go and just do a few great things:)
Love the these tips! Especially the rules of thumb about how much guests will consume! That’s the part I always struggle with. Would love to win a copy of this book!
Since I just bought my first house (on my own!) I feel like this should be my new Bible!
I love your lists!
I just picked up this book – it’s fabulous and I’ve marked more pages and passages than I care to admit!
I put this book on my wishlist when you mentioned it a few weeks ago – now I’m even more convinced I want to read it, and have more dinner parties 🙂 Would love to win a copy!
I have been drinking vodka+ting+a splash of grenadine since we went to Jamaica. Easy and so refreshing during the summer! The grenadine (or strawberry syrup if you are in Jamaica) make it really pretty too!
“Make it ahead” is the entertaining rule I live by!
I need this! Love all of these.
I like the idea of Bambini pasta–so much better than the ubiquitous mac and cheese.
Thanks, and Thank goodness someone is speaking out against scented candles at the dinner table!
I get very nervous when I entertain. This list makes it sound so easy and even fun.
I love these – thanks!
I wish I had known about this last week – it would have been the perfect Mother’s Day present!
#21 made me laugh! We’re having ribs and slaw for a big gathering of kids and adults this Saturday! (White First Communion dress and ribs may not mix, but that’s what she requested.)
What a great list! We haven’t had a chance to host any grown-up dinner parties in a while with a crazy toddler running around our house, but I’m looking forward to it one day!
Makes me want to throw a party! (for grown ups)
My copy is on its way from Amazon!
This book sounds great. It so much easier going into a party with a good simple menu. Otherwise it’s no fun for the hostess!
Ever since every other Chopped contestant has made french toast in the final round, I’ve wanted to shout from the rooftops “bread does not desert make!” But I am a big enough person to admit, that upon seeing those Nutella Desert Sandwiches, I stand corrected. Nutella FTW!
The ice cream cookies are genius – I made them for my last get together and WOW – were they a huge hit.
I love entertaining so much and it’s always great to get some fresh new ideas!
Can’t wait to try your Paloma recipe! Saw it on a menu recently and wasn’t quite sure what it was.
Perfectly timed post! I was just thinking about how to entertain the family coming over on Sunday!
I can’t wait to empty my trash can before my dinner party on Saturday night. Awesome tip – great book!
These are great tips! Thanks!
Thanks for highlighting this book… I’m ready for fresh hostess inspiration!
Great post! Thanks for the giveaway!
Those ice cream sandwiches look delicious!
Post bookmarked, but winning the book would be divine, too. 🙂
Looks like a great book, it’s always a challenge to come up with a meal plan to please everyone!
Great giveaway! I love to entertain and love these little tips!
The Paloma sounds delicious-can’t wait to try it!
Another good spin on the Nutella dessert sandwich is a Nutella quesadilla, which I make for my daughter. Drop a big dollop of nutella in a flour tortilla, fold over and grill in a buttered skillet until crisp and gooey, then dust with cinnamon sugar.
Desperately needing to start entertaining…this book would be a big help! And the list is great. Thanks!
Great post! Thanks for the tips
I am printing…well, pinning….this now! Thank you. My favorite tip is about the party taking a life of its own and working out (even when it doesn’t).
i’m in the midst of preparing for my birthday party on saturday, and this list just helped calm me down ever so slightly. especially #20!
This is lovely. I have been suffering from Excessive Entertainment Fatigue (E.E.F.) for a few years now. I think these tips might actually help. Thanks.
I like the cookie ice cream sandwich idea, sounds delicious! I’d love to see what other tips lie inside the book..
I love this list! I am trying to throw more dinner parties this summer that are kid friendly and this is a huge help. Also try a scoop of cottage cheese in that bambinia pasta, HUGE hit at our house. Buttered noodles just aren’t right without it.
I would love this book – I want to entertain more (we just remodeled the kitchen and I want to show it off!) but I always feel so overwhelmed at the idea.
Wonderful post!! Thank you!
Love this post and all of the wonderful tips! This sounds like the perfect book on entertaining for people of all ages!
I need to get my hands on a Paloma soon. Grapefruit soda has been added to my shopping list!
I already had “close the shower curtain down,” but that’s about it… Gotta get my hands on that book.
Favorite words: “it almost always works out, even when it doesn’t.” I think that could be a life philosophy, no?
Love this list … I would add that Trader Joes has great bubbly non-alcoholic drinks, like pink lemonade, limeade, etc. that provide a triple benefit – mixer for vodka, gin; fun for kids; something for adults who choose not to drink.
Looks excellent!
I can think of several people who will be getting this as a gift!
Fun giveaway! You never stop improving on entertaining 🙂
Great info! I would love to win this book!
can’t wait to read the book!
trying the paloma asap.
my margarita is the margarigio:
http://five-ten-fifteen.blogspot.com/2010/05/margarigio-pinot-grigio-margarita.html
Looking forward to trying the Paloma!
Wish I had known about resources like this at my last gathering. Thank you for posting great information! And I will HAVE to buy the book soon, (If I don’t win it)
Love the tips!!! I’m the dinner party queen among my friends but I’m still learning ways to ensure the night is fun and easy. Timing has been the largest issue thus far.
ribs and slaw 🙂
I love your list, so I think I would love this book as well!
i think this book is perfect as we are in charge of hosting game night every 3 months with our friends! it would make me a better host & guest!
We’ll be moving this summer so we could use this book for our housewarming party!
I love entertaining, but I am in a terrible rut. This looks lovely!
LOVE it! I have to remind myself that less can be more. ALSO… my husband and I just discovered Palomas last fall. YUMMY!
sounds like a great book! would love to win it!
Start with an empty dishwasher. So logical, and yet never occurred to me. Thanks!
Great list and great looking book! I also never thought of the Bambini pasta, awesome idea!
Love all the ideas!
Soooo sage and sane!
This book sounds great!
mmm, I want to try the Paloma asap!
Great post, full of useful pointers. Getting ready to host a meeting of 18 people at my home in one hour, and #9 has me running to light my bathroom candles! Thanks for a great list (along with 100 Rules of Dinner–all time fave post).
Great tips! Makes me want to throw a party!
Love this! Would love to check out this book!
My mouth is watering looking at the spread in the top picture… yum! Great tips!
Great ideas! Definitely makes me want to entertain this summer.
Looks like a great book! Can’t wait to check it out!!
These tips are incredibly useful–they certainly inspire me to entertain more frequently. Can’t wait to check out the book.
This book looks like a great companion to DALS. Hubs & I are starting to have dinner parties for people we’re not related to, and last month I make the mistake of tall flowers on the table. We moved them before finishing our salads so everyone could see each other (blush… why didn’t I think of that?!!). That faux pas was forgotten when the pork shoulder with papardelle was presented. One guest had thirds! Thank you, Jenny!!
I love having people over for dinner, but I am a very anxious entertainer and tend to go overboard making sure things are perfect! Love the tips so far – would loove to read more from this book!
Great list! Love the Nutella sandwich idea! Off to add the book to my Amazon wish list. Just in case I don’t win…
We just moved into our first home together and I would like to plan a housewarming party- this book would be perfect for ideas!
Love the tips, this book looks great!
This is amazing. I can’t wait to make the warm nutella sandwiches and the ice cream sandwiches. Oh, looks like I’m having a dessert party.
I missed the part in the post about a commentator getting the book, but I did see “92 comments” – my first thought was – “was there something controversial in this I didn’t pick up on?” Wasn’t until I started reading the comments that I realized.
These are great tips, especially about the flowers – I’ve made that mistake as well.
I would love this book!
Oh! I just must win this for my neighbor and friend whose birthday is fast approaching…..She would adore this! Well, so would I. It would be tough to give away…..might have to go shopping right now!
Oh, I need this book! And that holiday spread by Evan Sung is absolutely to die for. Where did that photo originally appear? I want to use it as inspiration for all my future parties.
Very timely…entertaining tomorrow night and will surely employ several of these great ideas.
I need this book! I have no idea how to entertain and I really need to get cracking on this life skill.
I would love to win this! Lots of tips I can use. Thanks!
I love this list. In fact, I love all lists that are easy to read and understand, and the tips are great. I will actually remember them come my next party/hosting duties!
Thank you for sharing!
oooh, i need to try that paloma recipe!
Looks like a great book to have in your arsenal!
Effortless entertaining… that’s what I like. Great tips!
Oh yes please! What brilliant ideas. I so rarely throw parties and get-togethers because I’m too intimidated and don’t know the best way to prepare a spread…:)
this post came at a great time for me as were having last minute guests this weekend and i’m trying not to hit the panic button. now i’ve got my mantra: keep it simple.
I love DALS and this book sounds fabulous. I think being a great hostess is something you learn, both from observation and trial and error. I am learning to host parties big and small and would live to read this book. I hope I win!! 🙂
Love these tips!
I’m obsessed with retro-style entertaining & cookbooks, so I am definitely going to want this Susan Spungen book! Thanks for these tips, very helpful – entertaining can be SO stressful!
It’s so funny, that I had never thought about making it a hard and fast rule to begin the evening with an empty dishwasher and trashcan. But since I read it in your book it has made all of my gatherings so much easier to clean up and just less stressful in general. Thanks!
Palomas! I’ve been saying this for 6 months–definitely the new margarita. This book sounds right up my alley, I would love to have a copy!
There are so many great ideas here! Where to start?
I REALLY want this book.
And yes, Nutella anywhere on the menu makes everything perfect…
her book is on my wish list – glad you met.
Planning a brunch for Sunday and these tips are PERFECT! 🙂
My husband is in charge of the social calendar and is always inviting people over. He says “It’s not big deal; I’ll help you!” I think we all know how that ends . . . . This book! Must have this book!
Sounds like a great book. So many people forget the scented candle tip….
This is a great list and I have to make the Nutella sandwiches immediately!
I found myself nodding at every tip. Sounds like a great book!
I am moving to my new home at the end of this summer. I can not wait to entertain, and put these tips to good use! Loved this post Jen! Off to try a Paloma! 🙂
Gee, being almost 50 years old, I thought I knew how to entertain. But whoa! I need this book! What great ideas that I could really use.
Great tips – I may have to buy the book if I don’t win it!
It is party season coming up at my house… 3 daughters and 3 summer birthdays. Thanks for the great tips!
Sounds like a fun book!
love the 21 tips. would love to have the book!
Nutella sandwiches!!! Guaranteed crowd pleaser, yes.
My husband and I just bought our first house and I need this book! We’ve been volunteered to host Thanksgiving and I need all the help I can get.
As someone who is just beginning to entertain, this book will be immensely helpful. I can’t wait to check it out!
We were totally living the Paloma last summer, and I was just thinking that it’s time to stock up on some grapefruit soda, now that it’s above 60!
Ooh, the book looks great!
Love it. If only we had a dishwasher…
nutella sandwich dessert = genius!!!!
If you have a dishwasher (sorry Lisa) also put the soap in the little door. I don’t know why, but having soap in there already makes me feel SO PEACEFUL
the Paloma sounds goooood!
Great suggestions. I always suggest wine when someone asks if they can bring something, too. This book is going on my wishlist!
These tips are helpful, would love to read the book!
The Paloma sounds like my new favorite cocktail!
Appetizers rock! (The best dinner ever is a bunch of appetizers and wine!) – OK, maybe leave out the wine for the kids – 😉
Looks like a must read!
Would love to win this book!
Thanks for the post! Really excited to check out this book, and her finger food book!
Palomas and ice cream sandwichs are aces.
I will be mixing some Palomas for my next gathering. Just made ice cream cookwiches for a party last weekend! Looks like a great resource.
wonderful tips for my next hosting gig!
looks awesome!
I’ve had my eye on this little gem of a book for weeks! I love to entertain.
Christina in Oregon
Wow, do I ever need this book!
Would love this book! Thanks for sharing.
I love these suggestions! Would love to read the book. Thanks for hosting a give away!
Some great tips!
All is well when Nutella is on the menu. My kind of book. Thanks for the giveaway!
I loved this post! (And then it was a pleasant bonus to see that it was a giveaway at the end…) I don’t think I’ve ever tried a Paloma, but you’ve 100% convinced me that it needs to be the next drink I make for myself. Especially considering I already love ginger ale + tequila (which my friends and I named the Chinchilla), and I already love Salty Dogs… hm I should try adding lime juice to my next Salty Dog, too!
Best checklist ever!
Love to have friends over and do catering as a favor sometimes
So useful! Making a Paloma tonight for sure.
I love this post!
Paloma! So fun. Our bar cart has a running love affair with Ting, and I’m excited to try this!
Pinning this post and adding the book to my wish list!
I love her blog! And the Paloma is ON for summer.
Wonderful post – thanks for the tips! Will be sure to use them next time we have guests.
Wonderful reminders of how to make things a bit easier for the hosts so everyone can relax and have a good time! I’m making a Paloma and planning my next party now!
I’m moving into a new (and bigger!) apartment in a few weeks. Dinner parties all summer long!
That cocktail sounds amazing. It’s finally stopped snowing long enough in Colorado to contemplate such a thing!
this book looks amazing!! And i need a Paloma, stat.
thanks for the great book references, i’m going to have to check this book out for sure.
Thanks for the tips and the giveaway – I really need this book!!
The process to becoming a great host can sometimes be a slow one; this book looks like it might speed things up!
We give a HUGE holiday party (75-80+ people) and are always on the lookout for new app ideas to keep the menu fresh. Adding this book to my Amazon wishlist now in case I don’t win!
I don’t have the entertaining gene, so reading that list has already inspired me with some great, simple tips!
Love this. I nearly always violate the “cook what you know” rule, though…love trying out new stuff when there’s extras to cook for. Also if I’m making it ahead of time & it doesn’t work out, I can always go back to an old standby on the day of!
palomas!!?? sounds great. 🙂
Such a great list. Thanks for the giveaway!
I think this is one I’m going to have to add to my list. And those palomas?…count me in!
Great post! I’ve been craving dinner parties lately, but I have a really hard time feeling like I can put together something really nice. These tips will help!
This looks like an entertaining read. Thanks!
I want it!
This book would have passed me by – thanks for profiling it.
Yes please! I think I need this book. And several Palomas.
Thanks for the tips! Can’t wait to read the book.
My husband makes a mean margarita, but I’m definitely going to have to try those Palomas.
Great ideas! I will have to remember the ice cream sandwiches for the kids!
Yum! Thanks for sharing.
Yuh-es, ice cream sandwiches! Last summer I made them with homemade double-chocolate cookies, and the kids lost their little minds. The adults liked them, too:)
Thanks for the chance at a great giveaway!
Love these tips! And I agree about the Palomas – they’re so refreshing.
what a great list! i just had my first paloma a few weeks ago (followed quickly by my second!) and i loved it! my drink of the summer for sure.
Oh goody … It would make for an excellent early birthday win! Fingers crossed for all!
Stacie
Great list! I would add: No need for a kids table unless there are many and they are rowdy! My kids have always loved being mashed up with the grown-ups. It makes for good relationships and great conversation.
Yum…All great ideas. Can’t wait to make my first paloma.
These are great ideas!
This is a terrific list! We don’t entertain much because our place is so tiny AND we have an almost 4 yr old….one day, one day…
Great post! I can’t wait to read the book…
Love your site… Always inspiring! This post is no exception! 🙂
I love the ice cream sandwich idea… so simple yet delicious! The perfect summer make-ahead dessert!
thanks for this post- I am intrigued by Quince paste!
Collapsible coat rack? Who knew?!!
Thanks for the giveaway,
Tristen
Love the sundae on a spponAfter school snack for my daughter every day – peanut butter, honey, mini choc chips!
Reading this post makes me what to throw a party! Thanks for chance.
Great, simple ideas! Just in time for the weekend.
Great post with wonderful ideas! Can’t wait to try the Nutella Dessert sandwich!
Thanks for the chance to win the book!
I really like this list. Thanks!
This would be perfect timing. I am throwing a housewarming party in a few short weeks 🙂
We are almost done with our backyard construction and I can’t wait for summertime backyard entertaining!
Now I have to throw a party! Thank you! 🙂
We are just finishing up with the construction on our backyard and I can’t wait to entertain for the summer!
Love all these ideas. I think this book is my new go-to for bridal showers, etc.
I have always wanted to host a fun dinner party. Maybe this book would help me pull it together!
Love all these great tips! I always keep a tub of ice cream and chocolate chip cookie dough on hand so I can whip up dessert in no time anytime. You don’t even have to make them into sandwhiches- you can be lazy like me and drop ice cream in a bowl and top with two cookies!
My birthday is coming up in June, so I’m stealing some ideas from this 🙂
I am hosting a graduation party in about 10 days, so I appreciate the tips. I also love the make ahead ice cream cookie sandwich idea, I may just make some for my ice cream loving son!!
Love this, especially since this summer we will be doing a lot of entertaining with family coming to visit.
Paloma! and yes – mise en place!
So glad you posted this! Sounds like a lovely book. If I don’t win, I’ll still have to order it for my mother as a belated Mother’s Day gift.
Love the tips! I am ginna make those semi-homemade ice cream sandwiches and also serve and drink the “new margaritas”! Thanks!
My husband is starting a new job and we’ll be entertaining. Thanks for the ideas.
Great tips! I need to shop for Paloma ingredients.
Love this post– would love to read the book!
That Paloma sounds yummy! And the book sounds like a must read!
Thanks for sharing the ideas. They are great.
Thank you so much for this! I only wish I had seen this a year or two ago. Since moving in with my boyfriend into a bigger house, we have a lot of large parties. I have learned from trial and error (mostly error) the tips about the bathroom, simple food, and cleanup. This is great!
Moving this summer…great tips for dinners in the new place!
Love the tips, we entertain more in the summer so this will be helpful. I also can’t wait to make up some of your special burger sauce! It’s a summer staple at our house.
me! me! me! this has been on my amazon wish list for weeks!! i want it!!
All these tips are so lovely! I would be so glad to win a copy 🙂
I love these ideas and would love to win the book, too!
great tips! Looks like a book I want to read.
Amazing tips!
This is an excellent resource…thanks for sharing it!
Can’t wait to read this book! I can’t get enough Tips from Experts.
Now I know what I’m getting my husband for his birthday! He is all about nice hors d’oeuvres and the simplest of simple meal (whatever that might be in the moment).
makes me want to have a party!
This book looks so fun!!
That book looks fantastic!
Thank you for sharing. Loved this post & book you introduced.
I am wanting to host a party this weekend now!
Looks like a fantastic book!
I WANT this book. And now I NEED Nutella too. Thanks Jenny!
I’m going to make those ice cream sandwiches, and that salad very soon, and have some company over to enjoy them. Thanks for the ideas!
*rumbling stomach* Looks great!
Love all items on the list!
Love these simple tips. I so appreciate being validated that I can still be a good hostess without going overboard and crazy!!!
Very nice tips! now if you have any for cleaning up a small house with a big three year old. For a period of time I argued that we should be forgiven the mess, but I think it’s to the point of uncomfortable for guests now.
Love entertaining and cooking. Great tips because I always do too much.
Loved this! Great tips!
Awesome! We are hosting the rehearsal dinner for friends wedding in August, I’m going to put those tips to good use!
These tips are so helpful! They make me want to toss all of our toy clutter in a closet and invite folks over. Thank you!
Oooooh! Me! Me! Pick me!
Mm love the cheese pairing ideas! And the Nutella sandwiches!
I always make entertaining too big of a deal. I need these tips!
I would love this book!
Hi Paloma, my name is Tonpia. Let’s become besties.
Ice cream sandwich = perfect dessert!
Hopefully, this book can inspire more of us to give parties, to make possible a greater sense of community.
I love these tips! x
great tips! love the drink math, and also the ice cream sandwiches!
Love the entertaining ideas… especially ice cream sandwiches! How cute would those be as miniatures??!
Would love to win this!
What a great book!
Fantastic tips! One specialty cocktail; beer, wine and soda for those who don’t like it. As long as you’ve got a clean bathroom, people always seem to be forgiving if your house isn’t spotless….especially if the food, drinks and conversation are fantastic!
This book is a must-have for my shelves. And will be a great hostess gift this summer!
Oooooh-pick me!
I would love to win this book!
Great tips! I’m going to have try a Paloma 🙂
Does the book come with a Nutella sandwich if I win? 🙂
It is so helpful to “have the permission” to say Yes bring something! Thanks for encouraging me to begin my own love story.
Ice cream sandwiches! I always forget about those. This book will really come in handy for the summer party season.
What great tips! In the summer, when we’re barbecuing outside, we always provide a basket of bug spray and sunscreen for our guests.
I’m always the most nervous hostess, convinced there won’t be enough food or drink. Until I get a glass of wine in me. Then everything works out.
I don’t necessarily always follow these types of tips, but I love to read about them
This book is on my wishlist! Thanks for the Paloma recipe. I not only love the way that word rolls of the tounge but I also love all things grapefruit.
Love this! Makes me want to throw a party.
Very helpful tips! Thanks!
The collapsible metal coat rack has just been added to my Target shopping list, love that idea!
mmm… boozy Jarritos. Sounds heavenly!
Couldn’t agree morea about the empty dishwasher, trash can, etc. It makes things THAT much easier.
Great post!
Every time I put together a cheese plate, I run through your list: something from a pig, etc.
Every time.
What a great post. I love the handy math!
Cant wait to serve those ice cream sandwiches this summer!!
We love having people over, esp. in the summer. I always get stressed out, but have fun as soon as people arrive. But I always make the same stuff. Bring on the new! Thanks for the giveaway, and love Palomas (fresh grapefruit juice, though).
This is a great list. I love all the tips for keeping it simple. That is something my husband and I really struggle with when entertaining. Thanks!
This is a really timely post with great advice. It makes me want to get something on the books today!
Great post!
Putting ice cream sandwiches on the list for summer. Great ideas!
Palomas are the best. I am also enamored of the bathroom checklist.
Great post! Can’t wait to add this book to my collection!
I would love to find a way to make hosting dinner parties more enjoyable and less stressful. I am definitely going to check this book out ( but will wait to see if I win it!).
I was just prepping for a Girl Scout meeting about manners and hosting a party. They don’t need the full list (yet!) but #3, #8, #9, #17 & #20 are great for these young girls (and the rest of us!) And I think we may incorporate #10 into the menu planning. Thank you!
i absolutely love these ideas and the book looks adorable. thanks!
What a lovely book and such approachable hostess advice! Easy to remember too.
Thanks for another great post!! I enjoy them all so much!!
Great list! I would really love that book
Looking forward to making ice cream sandwiches this summer.
Want! The book and the nutella toast sandies. Cripes, what a great idea!
I love to entertain and this book looks like divine inspiration. The Paloma might be this summer’s beverage of choice. Thanks for the recipe.
Love this list! I love entertaining and always looking for ideas on how to make it easier on the hostess!
I love when you do posts on entertaining; keep it up!
Me! Pick me! Makes me want to host a party!
Great post! I can’t wait to read the book:)
this looks great and makes me want to have friends over ASAP!
I love this! I recently had a dinner party disaster that involved me making something I had never made before, right before the guests arrived, and it turned out horrible. I have been thinking about the rule of making what you love and know for dinner parties ever since.
Also – was at your talk at the 92Y on Wednesday! You shared so much valuable information, and it was a real treat. Thank you!
I love having dinner parties and this list is invaluable! And now you have me craving a Paloma….
makes me want to read the book!
Love the list… need to remember the simplicity next time and that the house doesn’t need to be spotless!!
I love entertaining and this book sounds like a must have. Except I disagree with rule number one. Maybe it’s a southern thing but there should always be a bounty.
This is great! Thanks.
Yes! Thanks for a great list and for No. 6. love it.
Ready for Memorial Day!
I really want an ice cream sand which now! Great list!
Great post! I’m looking forward to reading the book….
I envision sipping a Paloma while reading Susan’s awesome new book. How cute is that cover?? Great post! Fingers crossed for a win!
Excellent tips!
Love this list!
I am so excited to make these ice cream sandwiches!
Now all I have to do is decide who to invite!
Thanks for this post–I’m hosting an event in a couple of weeks and this info has helped pull me back from the brink of crazy hostess disaster mode.
I’m pretty terrified of entertaining but we’ve vowed to start. I’m looking for all the help I can get.
I remember an old friend who’s rule was to serve easy food she would love and invite people you find interesting (and kind?). Sounds simple, non?
this post saved the day. we just moved from the city to the burbs and we’re having new neighbors over tonight! THANK YOU!!!
My life always needs more lists of how to be better in the kitchen — cannot wait to put these into practice!
I love that Nutella idea. It seems like a great way to get guests involved too. 🙂
Love these tips!
Love tip #5! I always seem to over or under buy drinks for my gatherings.
These are great tips. I’m always learning a new lesson every time we entertain so more advice is always welcome!
When I’m at someone’s else’s gathering and they DON’T have soft lighting, I find a way to help turn down the lights and light up the candles – is that bad? haha AND I always have a playlist ready in case there isn’t any music – awkward silence beware!
Having guests over soon, and I have to say, I LOVE the coat rack idea! Thanks!
Entertaining is one of my favorite things to do!! This book would be fabulous.
We are in the process of buying a house with a wet bar in the basement — that fact plus this post makes me so excited to host. Thank you!!
what a fun book & a wonderful post. it reminded me to get my summer party invites out SOON. thanks!
Great post -great book
Looks like a great addition to the kitchen library.
Thanks! Always looking to up my hostess game.
The Paloma and the party ideas are refreshing, thank you.
I had this little pitter patter in my heart of feeling so cool since we’ve been drinking the paloma for a while around here! It’s a great drink. And it’s a great list.
looks great!
Summer is almost upon us and I can’t wait for dinners with friends which run late into the evening while the kids are running around the lawn. Can’t wait to read this!
I’d love to win a copy!
This is a book I need! I love books about food and entertaining, not just for parties but for every day.
I came here from FramedCooks where she is giving away YOUR cookbook this month. That’s some kind of serendipity, isn’t it? 😉
What a great looking book. Perfect for summer entertaining.
Brilliant ideas!
Please Yes I Need This!! I am still intimidated by entertaining. Make endless lists but can’t relax into it. Is it genetic? If so can I have surgery like Angelina Jolie? (not to make light of her courageous act in any way)
This book sounds right up my ally. I knew a couple of these tips but you can always learn more.
Love this post, started drinking dark and stormy based on your writing…I think a change is in my future with The Paloma! Thank you 🙂
Love the picture of the appetizers above. Bountiful , beautiful.
Great advice. Thanks!
What a fabulous post. This is a keeper.
Awesome tips! I will definitely use these ideas!
Great ideas! And the give away looks interesting!
Already so many ideas!!! Thank you!
Those ice cream sandwiches are looking pretty dreamy.
What a GREAT list. Thanks for sharing
Looks like a great book – I need all the help I can get with this sort of thing!
Love this post and love to entertain. These are wonderful tips thanks for posting. Crossing my fingers to win the giveaway too.
I do not like entertaining but I enjoyed these “rules”. Maybe I can be trained? Thank you.
Loved this post and love entertaining!
Love these tips! I love to entertain!
All those tips are so handy!
Love it! Such useful tips that anyone can pull off with ease.
the Paloma–genius! this book looks like a must have. Thanks for another great tip.
Just found your website after reading your book Dinner A Love Story. Excited to try out some new recipes!
This post is why I am grateful I found this website: useful, entertaining to read, and inspiring. It’s rare that I read a recipe or tips and actually feel empowered – Thanks Jenny!
The Paloma just might have to be my official drink of summer this year! Great advice in the book.
Great post and book! I think this book was written for me, a truly reluctant entertainer!
One can never have too many tips on hosting a great party.
I just came across your blog via Sometimes Sweet and I’m SO excited about it. I wish it wasn’t midnight right now so that I had more time, but I will absolutely be stopping by more often. I’m really excited about this post specifically because I also write a hostess blog and I love to see what other people are doing. Really excited to see what comes next… have a great week!!
Didn’t read all the comments to be sure that I’m not being redundant but I have been drinking La Palomas for years and, when you gotta have one and there’s no authentic grapefruit soda around, Fresca works in a pinch. You will remember this when you are far, far away from the kind of store that carries Jarritos or Jamaica Ting and be thankful (as long as you don’t mind artificial sweeteners). 🙂
Your blog is new to me and I look forward to seeing what I learn from it!
What a fun and useful book! Would love to read all of the tips.
Thanks for sharing, Carly. You’re the best! Love your website and your blog as well.
I love these ideas! Can’t wait to read them all – I love to entertain.
LOVE your blog! it’s fun, informative & creative.