Thank you to everyone who noticed that Dinner: A Love Story was down all day Friday. It was frustrating, but the sheer number of “I can’t log on!” messages I received through social media channels warmed my heart. (They read me! They really do!) In addition to the nightmarishly long phone conversations I had to have with my web host, I was forced to scrap my weekly round-up (“the reading & eating” series) even though it was all ready to go. I would just run that round-up today, but given the events of the weekend, I think you probably know that I can’t bring myself to head straight into cheese graters and Super Bowl menus. Like many of you, I’m disgusted by the Muslim Ban, an executive order that has diminished this country and all we stand for with the stroke of a pen. The outpouring of action — spontaneous rallies, heroic judges and volunteer lawyers, boycotts, marches, postcard-writing mania — has been inspiring, but I fear we have a long road ahead of us. So before I get back to regularly scheduled programming, I’d like to follow the lead of two of my favorite food writers, Luisa Weiss and Julia Turshen by giving away free books* to the first ten people who donate $100 or more to the ACLU. (Forward your receipt to jenny AT dinneralovestory DOT com and tell me which book you’d like. *You can choose not just mine, but Luisa’s, Julia’s or the book of any other author or blogger who would like to join forces with us.)
I’ll post the weekly round-up in the next few days, but please take a minute to read this story “A Clarifying Moment in American History,” written by a prominent conservative, paying careful attention to the line about educating our children.
UPDATE: You guys are amazing. The ten books (fourteen actually, it was too close to call) are spoken for. But please continue to donate and forward me your ACLU receipts, if only so my faith in the goodness of this country stays strong. Thank you Katharine, Rachael, Rebecca O, Jay, Victoria, Margaret, Suzette, Jennifer, Rebecca C., Erica, Marian, Elise, Kim, and Tiffany.
NOTE
I want to acknowledge the readers who have told me in no uncertain terms that they come to this blog for recipes and dinner strategies and resent the fact that from time to time I use Dinner: A Love Story as a political platform. I hear you on that, and I understand the frustration. But I’d like to point out that if you click on the “About” section on the top of my home page, it’s been clear from the beginning that I envisioned this space as not only a forum to discuss what’s for dinner, but also as a place to discuss what’s happening around the dinner table. In the past seven years, I’ve posted too many chicken recipes to count, but I’ve also written about how to have meaningful conversations over a shared meal; how to raise compassionate kids; how to raise girls with healthy body images; how technology affects our childrens’ development; how to teach them about empathy and gratitude; where we are traveling; what music we are listening to; and close to a hundred posts about what books we are loving — fiction, nonfiction, kids, YA, adult — which, you might be surprised to hear, are perennially the most popular/most shared/most visited posts on DALS. (More popular than even Pork Ragu!) Do politics fit in with this list? You might not think so. A year ago, I wouldn’t have thought so. But I hope you understand, given the extraordinary circumstances of this administration, that it has started to feel disingenuous, almost irresponsible to write only about pork chops and apple pies without acknowledging a conversation that started 18 months ago at our dinner table (overlapping with many of the topics I hit on above) and shows no sign of stopping.
Lastly, I hope I’m not naive in believing that we are in a unique position on this blog. I think it’s fair to assume every person reading Dinner: A Love Story wants what is best for their families and their childrens’ futures. Let’s remember that we have more in common than we don’t, and try to prove my tagline correct as we head into the next few tumultuous years: It all begins at the family table.
Reminder: I welcome reactions from every side here, but the same rule applies as always: If you strongly disagree with me, know that I strongly respect your right to disagree, but you must pretend you are at my dinner table sitting across from me when you post your comment. This corner of the Internet is not the Wild West. I will not approve comments that are flagrantly mean-spirited or that do not advance the conversation in a constructive way.
I love you 😉
I really appreciate this post. Politics and discourse are frequently part of our family table. A primer on how to define “patriarchy” for a seven-year-old while she peels sweet potatoes and rubs butter into the chicken before roasting would also be welcome.
LOL! i don’t even have kids yet, but i’ll be waiting with bated breath for a response to this!
Thank you for your honesty, always. We (at least, I) keep coming back to the blog because it feels like getting an update from a friend, and in this time in this country it would be utterly disingenuous for you to avoid any reference to the swirl of emotions and unrest in our news and around our tables. You are clear about your position, but always respectful, which is exactly what we need MORE, not less, of in this time. Thanks!!
Your table, your rules, and I am ALL IN and I appreciate a seat here. YOU GO!
Thank you for speaking up!
Thanks so much for talking about this. It’s so important. Love DALS!
Thank you for this post. Having these conversations around the dinner table, our schools, our places of worship is the only way we will get through all of this. And these family dinners become even more important now than ever before! <3
Thank you, for the years of posts about dinner that make me feel like your family are friends of my family. I agree with you, this is no time to be silent about what we believe. We try to make sense of the world around our dinner tables, and the conversations we’ve had around ours have certainly changed over the last year, too.
So spot on. Thank you. <3
Beautifully said, Jenny. Thanks for adding food for thought to the mix, it truly is such an important part of the family (and community) table.
My thoughts exactly! Thanks Jenny!
Hear, hear, Jenny!! Everyone has a right to his or her opinion, but I love and respect that you have the courage to own yours! It’s authentic and inspiring!
I commend you both on your willingness to present a valid, honest opinion of the current state of affairs and your ‘articulateness’ in doing so. As a Canadian, it has been as difficult to watch, knowing we can change nothing south of our border. This pales in comparison to yesterday’s events in Quebec City and the absolute inability we have to breathe now due to shock and horror. Please continue your efforts. This is spiralling out of control across many borders.
Thank you.
Thank you for this post, and sharing this message. This is a conversation at my dinner table every day now, and I appreciate your candor and genuine approach to the issue. I agree that while I love the other blogs I read too, it feels odd to ignore such a huge elephant in the room. Love to you and DALS!
Beautifully put.
you rock!!!! I appreciate you using your space for something this important even if it’s not-expected. this is just too important. agree with the commenter who said “your table, your rules”
Way to bring it!
I won’t be sending a receipt because we are sending money to both the ACLU and Planned Parenthood. They’re both getting $50 this week. These were the primary issues on my signs at the Women’s March in Chicago. I heard so many times that we should wait until Trump took some action before we marched. This is what we were marching against. Why did they think he wouldn’t act on what he spoke of in his campaign?
Yes, yes and yes. I’m glad you’re not “shutting up” as Bannon would have us do…
Beautifully stated Jenny! Thank you for using your voice in such a kind and respectful manner! We are with you all of the way!
Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
I love you and pork ragu. Thank you!
Thank you so much for this. Every person needs to speak out against what is happening right now. Silence is also a political act – one of complicity. Now is not the time to bury our heads in the sand. I love all your posts, but especially the vegetarian ones.
Thank you so much for not pretending it is business as usual these days. These conversations are so important and standing up for what we believe in, what we value, and who we want to be as a country are even more so.
Thank you for this post. It’s so important to do anything we can right now and though I was already a fan, this makes me love this space even more.
Thank you. I truly appreciate the way you described it. My two kids grew up discussing politics with the family. My husband and family immigrated to this country from Egypt. Issues like immigration and racism are pretty close to home for us. It truly helped shape them into the young adults they are today. I say keep it up – fight the good fight. These are strange and perilous times.