A few weeks ago, Joanna over at Cup of Jo asked me for some lessons on parenting teenagers. It just so happened I was in the middle of a rough patch and the best I could do without compromising anyone’s privacy was report that I was constantly being reminded of a quote from my friend whose kids have long since left the house and graduated from college. That friend told me, I even miss the hard times.
What I’ve also learned, though, is that like every phase of parenting, most of the time a phase is just that: a phase. And right when you are convinced that those hard times are the way things are always going to be ad infinitum, almost overnight things can start looking up. And suddenly, the air is clear enough to recognize and appreciate all that’s great about living with kids of a certain age. Thanks to living with teenagers, I have an informed opinion on Drake vs. Kendrick Lamar; I can go skiing and only have to worry about buckling my own boots; I’ve learned the ins and outs of cooking Paleo (or at least Paleo-ish); I had seen almost every Oscar-nominated movie because they actually want to see the same movies as me; I was making a full-on case for Yanny before the story even hit the next day’s New York Times; I have a real excuse to re-read To Kill a Mockingbird and Picture of Dorian Gray and books I haven’t read since high school; I not only own a beauty blender, I know how to use it; I know that GOAT stands for “Greatest of All Time;” In fact, I am fluent in an entirely new language (“that’s an L,” “glow up,” “rip,” “low-key,” etc.); and, thanks to Abby’s dessert obsession, I not only know every major confectionery in New York City, but I get to enjoy her home-baked creations when the spirit moves her, which seems to be often these days.
That is the actual point of this post. I’ve written before about the fact that she’s learned how to bake, not stoveside next to a beloved flour-dusted nonna, but on her instagram feed via the insanely addictive hands-and-pans videos generated by feeds like So Yummy and Buzzfeed. I’ve long since abandoned my resentment about this (can’t you tell?), and just appreciate the fact that she’s excited about making something with her hands.
Plus, her taste is getting more refined. Occasionally, she’ll stumble upon a recipe that includes no fruity pebbles or marshmallows. In fact — and I take this as a sign of maturity — occasionally she’ll stumble upon a recipe that she thinks can be improved upon by simplifying. Remember Coco Chanel’s rule of fashion? Before you leave the house take one thing off. This is the rule she applied to So Yummy’s Oreo Chocolate Cheesecake with Strawberries and Nutella Drizzle. She decided to take off the Nutella Drizzle. Second time around, she decided to replace the Oreos with Graham Crackers and dial back the chocolate ganache…
…Third time around, she nailed it. I guess she’d call it low-key GOAT. I’d call it as good as any cheesecake I’ve ever made and just right as we head into no-bake dessert season.
Abby’s No-Bake Strawberry-Chocolate Cheesecake
Definitely watch the SoYummy video to get a sense of how their version comes together.
1 1/2 cups graham crackers, chopped and crushed
½ cup butter, melted
For cheesecake filling
8 ounces cream cheese
1 cup powdered sugar
1 cup heavy cream, whipped
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
For chocolate ganache
1/2 cup heavy cream
5 ounces semi-sweet chocolate
5 or 6 fresh strawberries, sliced
Mix graham crackers and melted butter until combined, then pat the mixture firmly into the bottom of a 9-inch springform cake pan. (Abby used a regular round 9-inch pan and it was fine.) Freeze for 10 minutes.
Whip the cream cheese with the powdered sugar until smooth, then fold in whipped cream. Spoon this evenly into the frozen crust and refrigerate until set, about 3 hours or preferably overnight.
Heat the remaining cream to a simmer and pour over chocolate to melt. Stir until completely smooth.
Pour the ganache filling over the set cream cheese filling and top with sliced strawberries. Chill for an hour (remove from springform pan if you used one) and serve.
Interesting post, I like it
I wonder if my parents think about the hard times, when I was in my rebellious age. Thank you for sharing the recipe, can’t wait to try it.
This is the 1st time I have known a recipe to make cake without bake. What an interesting recipe!
Actually sometime children and teenager make me surprise by their imagination and their passion with something. And whenever they do anything they love they are really serious like adult, I learn a lot from them.
I am in the middle of potty-training our toddler and today I needed a gentle reminder that eventually this too will end. Allegedly she will learn to use the potty and my mornings won’t be spent cleaning accidents. Thank you.
When I was having my first child, a woman gave me the advice that things seem to change every 6 months with kids. So, if you are in a rough spot, know there is a light at the end of the tunnel! I’ve gone back to that several times over the years. 😉
I wish there were more resources/communities for parents of teenagers. We’re in a rough spot too and all the advice on the internet is so effing sanctimonious. You have to be patient with them, you have to be the role model, you have to pick your battles, you have to be their safe space (but don’t been too lenient! ) etc. etc. Where are the articles that say, It’s okay to profoundly dislike them in the moment? It’s okay to distance yourself a little bit so their ups and downs don’t become your ups and downs? It would be nice to see articles talking about how parents can preserve their own sanity and mental well-being, instead of always just articles about how to take care of the teens.
Thanks for letting me vent a bit – I hope this too will pass.
As teenager hobbies go you sure got lucky!
Next time you’re in nyc take her to Grace Street in koreatown for patbingsu- those amazing korean shaved ice desserts with various toppings. Very
Insta-friendly. And crazy delicious. The same shop has some delicious pastries too.
Or avoid K-town and head to Bingbox or Snow Days further downtown.
No Grahams, so I used Maria cookies for the base. I also whipped cream in the same bowl after whipping the cream cheese, to save a bowl! Luckily since there are no eggs, safe to eat “raw”- yummmy! Can’t wait to taste final product! Thank you!!!
Yumm! Thank you for the new recipe! It looks so good. I am going to make it tonight.