I realize I’m not breaking any journalistic ground with this observation, but I’m going to say it anyway: It’s kinda crazy what you can check off The List when you’re not surrounded by small people asking for a snack or to tie a soccer cleat or to find the math notebook which was right here a second ago and to look at me! Look at me! Look at me! Take, for instance, an unseasonably warm winter Friday this past February. My friends Ed Nammour and Kate Porterfield showed up in my kitchen at 8:00 am — a few minutes after Andy and I shepherded Phoebe and Abby to the bus stop — and by the time the girls disembarked seven hours later, brains filled with fractions and parallelograms, Ed had shot this crazy beautiful honest-to-God Book Trailer for me, complete with a thing called B-Roll? Do you guys know from B-Roll?
I’m exaggerating a bit there — B-Roll is one of the few terms I knew going into the whole production, but that’s about where the knowledge tops off. A big reason why I chose a career as an editor and then opted for the blog medium when I started Dinner: A Love Story 2 1/2 years ago, was because I didn’t have to, you know, talk. With my mouth. Out loud. In front of people. I warned Kate — who was serving as the off-camera interviewer, and who you might remember for coining the page-turner concept — that she would have her work cut out for her. I was not going to be able to put a sentence together in any kind of coherent way. I am a writer! I speak through my keyboard and like to have time to scratch my chin while formulating unique insights!
“Jenny,” Kate replied to all this. “You’re not talking about North Korea here. You’re talking about dinner.”
See why I forced her to be on set with me? Five hours later, I had managed to articulate a few thoughts about family dinner and my book, and why this project has meant so much to me as a parent these past few years. And Kate was on the 1:20 train back to Brooklyn, where her daughters were returning from their school day.
I hope you have some time to watch it and, if you like what you see, to share it with other people who might be inspired to catch the family dinner bug, too. If you love what you see? Well, by now, I think you know what to do. And if you’d rather spend those 3 minutes and 57 seconds reading about North Korea, I’ll crystallize the video and the book and the entire mission of DALS for you with one quote I said at about 3:09:
“What I tried to do with this book is cover all the things that can happen at the family dinner table during all stages of a family’s life.”
That means the Just-Married Days, the New Parent Days, and the Bonafide Family Dinner Days, when we get to have conversations at the table that don’t begin with the phrase “If you don’t eat that fill-in-the-blank….”
Of course, I’d be remiss if I didn’t acknowledge that Ed’s work was far from over when the bus came at the end of our shoot day. He spent more hours than I can bear to think about whittling the 60 minutes of dinner-talking and pizza-flipping footage into the 3:57 narrative you see above. How I got so lucky to live around the corner from a filmmaker and commercial director who (on the side!) loves to support local projects…I’ll never know. I’m just glad I got to meet him that day five years ago when he, his wife, and six other families bid farewell to their kindergartners at the bus stop.
Reminder: A week from today, April 24th, be sure to check in with DALS! We have an exciting proposition for you which, amazingly, doesn’t involve our yogurt-marinated chicken. Well, it sort of does, I guess. But only peripherally.
I love this so much. And also i have the same shirt.
So great, Jenny! My favorite part is at the end. I share your feeling that no matter what other (perhaps countless) mistakes I have made in my day, if I get to sit down with my family for dinner, I have done one wonderful thing right. As always, thanks for your recipes, wisdom and good humor. Cannot wait to get the book!
Congratulations! You did great! Feeding and eating with my family is the glue that holds this whole ragtag thing together. Seriously.
So love this – DALS has revolutionized our dinners! If you only knew the impact you have had. And what would make it better – if you were my neighbor.
Love it! You look SO COMFORTABLE (and adorable) on camera. Now I’m just waiting for your Food Network show.
I’m so excited for this book. Time For Dinner is my most beloved and well-worn cookbook in my collection….thanks!
You guys are seriously the best readers ever. Thank you for every single one of these supportive comments and also for how enthusiastically you’ve embraced DALS these past few years. I promise to keep the self-promotion to a minimum — tomorrow we are back to our regularly scheduled programming: dinner! xx
Awesome job. Much easier to send a friend a link to this video than try to describe how great this site is—and how great the book will be!
Jenny! This is fantastic!! Congratulations! You look and sound great — and love that your meals have such purpose and it’s all so beautifully summed up by you and your lovely self! I can’t wait for the book … and hopefully one day Dinner: A Love Story — the movie! 🙂 Great work!
just wonderful.
LOVED IT!!! The trailer made me tear up a little. I have been reading the blog almost since you started, and recomend it to all my friends. It really is such an insparation, and a reminder that dinner with a 3 year old and 1 year old is not how dinner will always be. Thank you! And can’t wait for the book.
What’s not to LOVE! “Looking into your child’s eyes for the first time that day” … had me. Congratulations in all your endeavors.
Wonderful! Your blog is inspirational.
Love love love. This is amazing and touching, and I love your work. Oh, sigh. Can’t wait for the book!
Jenny,
You are the most adorable person ever. I’m totally out of your “target demographic” (if you have one) as I am over 50, widowed, and my children are grown. However, I was really moved when I saw your trailer because the one thing that I did right as a parent was family dinner. And the following story let me know that I was an okay mom.
Several years ago my children were about 21 and 22 and living home for the summer. I was working part time at the high school where I am a counselor and spending a lot of time there with one particular teacher. She never had family dinner growing up. When she heard that I did a dinner almost every night, she was amazed and said, “It’s time for your kids to grow up! You shouldn’t have to cook dinner every night.” Wishing for a little freedom, I went home and said to my kids, “ya know, I don’t think I’ll cook family dinner anymore. You guys are too old.” Well, you would have thought that I killed a puppy! “What? No family dinner?” “Mom, don’t be ridiculous. We have to have family dinner.” I knew then that I was okay. My kids want to be around the dinner table with my husband and I. They love that time as much as we do.
In August 2010 my husband died after fighting lung cancer. During his illness, I confess, dinner suffered. I realized that for the better part of 28 years I’d been cooking for him. “I lost my audience” is what I’ve said. But my kids still wish for my food and slowly I’m getting around to cooking for them. Cereal for me, anything they want for them.
So thank you. Your blog is great. Andy is great too. And family dinner is a love story all its own.
Best,
Liz
What a lovely video, and I have already per-ordered your book. Thank you for being an inspiration.
Anything that even peripherally involves your yogurt-marinated chicken, I’m in. We just had it (again) last night, where my husband said (again), “This is the best chicken I’ve ever had,” and my son (who despises yogurt and has to leave the room when anyone else is eating it) said, “Are you SURE this has yogurt in it? It’s so good!” Thank you guys for being out there; I only wish you lived next door to me!
what a wonderful trailer! i feel like i got to know you better, even though i’ve been a follower for quite some time now. i don’t have a family yet, but in my classroom (i teach third grade), we have what’s as close as i’ve got to family dinner – story time! when my students and i gather around the carpet to read together, we have the most meaningful, insightful, and often emotional conversations (and on that note, as much as i love your recipe posts, my favorite series y’all do are the author/kids book recommendations). you’ve started a great tradition with your family, and i can’t wait to have your cookbook as a reference for when the time comes for me to begin the family dinner tradition myself.
Awesome Jenny!
It looks great — can’t wait!
Looks awesome, I can’t wait for the book:-)
I love this trailer! All this time I’ve had a Jenny-voice in my head whenever I read your posts. You sound nothing like I imagined! I wonder which voice will predominate now when I read DALS–real Jenny or imagined Jenny? 🙂
Cute trailer, Jenny! Just wanted you to know that in our house, a house of writers, a house FULL of books (so, so full), DALS is turning out to be the most anticipated book of the millenium, for both myself (cookbookaholic) AND my husband (which one’s the stove?) And it’s not so much about the food (it is), but rather that you and Andy have nailed the sweet spot in our lives, where we hope that in a psycho day of deadlines and soccer and what-the-heck, we can at least all have a lovely meal together without any stress or angst. You guys have become a part of our family. Thank you so much!
I read your blog every day. I come into work, turn on my computer and one of the first things I do is choose “Dinner: A Love Story” on my bookmark toolbar. I can relate to almost every single post – our thoughts parallel in so many ways to our cooking and raising our families. I share your stories with friends and my recipe binder is full of your recipes that I have printed from your website (I do have your first book and can’t wait for your next one). So yesterday when I saw your trailer I found great happiness in finally meeting you and in being able to forward the link to my friends to say “Meet Jenny”. It is so great to finally put a face and voice to the person who values the ritual of sitting down together as a family for dinner as much as we do. It is how I grew up and it is how we raise our kids – it just feels right. Thanks so much!! Finally, someone who gets the pleasure of setting the table – it is as important to me as the meal itself!
so, so excited!!! you are so easy for my readers to relate to, and aspire to be like– juggling a lot, staying upbeat, true to what’s important, and a sense of humor through it all. such a fan of your blog, and now cannot wait to read your print version. many, many congrats!!